Don’t be scared of intense people, become one
Top 10 Signs of an Emotionally Intense Person
I met a friend of mine after many years and yes, I was very excited to see him. After a good long chat, he leaned back on his chair and said, “I think you’re an intense person, I need some water.”
At that time, I didn’t know what an ‘intense person’ meant, so we didn’t talk about it much. But when I came home I gave it a search and it seems like he was right about his observation. I do have some intense qualities, which happen to be related to emotional intelligence, a much bigger topic which I don’t aim to explore in this piece.
So for now, this is more of a public acceptance letter to him — and maybe a case for interconnections of emotional intensity and emotional intelligence?
Emotional intensity… is not a matter of feeling more than other people, but a different way of experiencing the world: vivid, absorbing, penetrating, encompassing, complex, commanding — a way of being quiveringly alive.
— L. Sward
Here are some signs of intense people. I can’t remember where I copied it from, I think it’s from the A Brief Guide to Comprehending Emotional Intelligence ;)
- Vulnerable and easily open up to others
- Spend a lot of time thinking, a lot
- They care about everything and everyone
- Speak about everything with conviction and sincerity
- Want to help everyone and everything
- Use of intense language and vivid words
- Intense conversation with undivided attention
- Introduce heavy topics in normal conversation
- Emotionally expressive
- A constant craving for meaningful conversations, no room for small talk
To conclude, intense people usually have a socially-alive demeanor which when combined with the qualities of directness, flexibility and seriousness all contribute to creating something equal to a hurricane. So the next time you see one, gird-up your lions and embrace them. You are more powerful than you think and you know have a friend to exercise with ;)
